DH went his for his HR meeting at his new workplace last week, and also met with the manager. He’s so excited about the new opportunity. He came home and told me the owner had asked about me! I said why would he ask about me? That’s so random. So he told me that when he had gone for his first HR meeting, he had told them that he needs time off to go to doctor appointments because we are trying to have a baby.
I was quite taken aback that he had told them about our fertility issues. It took me weeks, if not months to tell my close family, and I definitely have not told any of my clients/employers. I don’t even tell them that we are trying to have a baby, let alone IVF!
I’m not sure how much he told them, but it turns out that the owner of the business, also went through IVF. They had two children through IVF, and the third was a surprise! He also told DH that if I ever need anyone to talk to, his wife would be more than happy to talk with me. On top of that, he gave DH a breakdown of what to expect from the 3 main fertility clinics in town. What he said about our first clinic was spot on. SELL SELL SELL was their first priority, and that’s exactly what we got.
He said the clinic we’re going to now is probably the best. While they’re still a for-profit business, they’re not going to sell us something we don’t need. I’m so relieved to hear this. I think this conversation with DH, put him more at ease at his urology consult.
I’m grateful that DH told his employer, we’re lucky that they’re so understanding. I’m still hesitant about telling people though, especially in the workplace. I tried to explain that there are different perceptions for women who are TTC in a workplace, but he doesn’t seem to understand.
Did you tell your employer?