How did you know your clinic was "the one"?

We have only been to one fertility clinic for a consult. The experience was fine, the clinic was really nice, and our patient coordinator has been so helpful. However, DH found that they were really pushy in getting us to start IVF right away. The urologist he met with also practiced out of the same clinic, and he was also very pushy towards IVF.

I’ve read that for IUI to be one of the potential methods, DH needs at least 5 million sperms so there will still be a substantial number after the wash. DH’s sperm counts are LOW, at 1 million, so I wasn’t as surprised that they were pushing for IVF.

I’ve put in a request to go to another fertility clinic. So here we are waiting again. How many clinics did you consult with before find the one? How did you know it was the one?


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Chromosomal Defect…Say WHAT?

In the midst of dealing with DH’s depression diagnosis, he also got a call from our fertility doctor about a cytogenetics test he took when he met with the urologist. The test showed that DH has a paracentric inversion of chromosome 1.

I had, still have, no idea what this means. DH has been referred to a geneticist, but it will probably be weeks, if not months, before we get an appointment.

Of course, I had to turn to Google.
From what I found, there are two types of inversions, pericentric and paracentric. There are two sections to a chromosome. A pericentric inversion is when the inversion happens on the centromere, I guess the connection between the two sections. Whereas a paracentric inversion happens on one of the tails.

I don’t know what this means for us. I know that chromosomal defects can cause miscarriage. A defect in chromosome 1 can also cause severe mental retardation. Chromosome 1 is also the largest chromosome in our DNA. DH is healthy (except for his sperm and diabetes), so I’m not sure how this inversion affects him. All we can do now is wait for our appointment with the geneticist.

Wham Bam! Your World is Crumbling Ma’am!

The only thing I can do is think of a funny title. It’s been a little over a week since my world has come crashing down. As you know, DH has an extremely low sperm count. I was beginning to be comfortable with that. He still has sperm, so IVF is an option. It will be a very trying, and expensive process, but it is still an option.

Then, last Monday happened…

DH has been really stressed, and exhausted the last few months. He started a new job at the beginning of the year, and it’s been hard for him to not be the big fish in a small pond anymore. He was so excited to start this new job, he had nothing but positive, and grand things to say about his new employer…before he even started to work. Continue reading